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February 7th, 2009 at 07:10 pm

The payment to pay off the CC hadn't even CLEARED and DH asked me yesterday if he could get a motorcycle.

I simply said to him "I don't know HOW"

He didn't push it after that. But half an hour later said "You never told me why I couldn't get a motorcycle"

"I don't know how we could. We can't increase our monthly expenses and we don't have the money in the bank to pay for it outright."

He hasn't said much since. Mostly he's been sulking and not his usual happy-go-lucky self.

Usually this is where I give into the temper tantrum. We were supposed to take our son and go looking at Karate programs today but DH wanted to spend all day looking on the computer at motorcycles. I feel bad for my son cause he was really looking forward to it.

I even tallied up our debt after paying off the GTI & the CC. $95K non-mortgage debt, $700K WITH mortgages

On a monthly cash flow basis, because groceries went up we have $300 left over every month that I'm trying to put down to paying off MY credit card.

That doesn't even account for the $2K I put in savings so we can pay for our Missouri trip to see his family next month.

The lease is up on the rental at the end of June so I know I need to put some money aside in case they don't renew the lease and I have to deal with a vacancy.

I have 3 more classes I need to pay for before I have my master's, so I need about $4K for the rest of the year for school.

This doesn't even factor in trying to visit my Dad.

So I KNOW I'm making the right decision, and DH isn't throwing an all-out temper tantrum, but the sulking about it isn't exactly helping things. If I knew we could afford it, FINE. But I hate being treated like the "bad guy". I didn't even say he COULDN'T get it, but I laid it out pretty clearly that I don't know how he plans on paying for it.

Seriously, don't blame me, blame the bank account - its missing a few zeros!

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10 Responses to “Annoyed”

  1. oceansluver78 Says:
    February 7th, 2009 at 07:21 pm 1234034471
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    Seriously, don't blame me, blame the bank account - its missing a few zeros! now that's classic !

  2. mom-sense Says:
    February 7th, 2009 at 07:26 pm 1234034813
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    I would simply show him the bank statements, plus the other things that are needed: like your tuition and money to visit your family.

    Sounds to me like your DH needs a dose of reality and needs to grow up.

  3. Amber Says:
    February 7th, 2009 at 07:45 pm 1234035900
    1234035900

    Good for you, I think it's great that you are not giving in so to speak. But I agree, sit him down and show him your cash flows both in and out

  4. LuxLiving Says:
    February 7th, 2009 at 07:48 pm 1234036101
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    I would be p.o.'d for the kiddos sake!

  5. AmbitiousSaver Says:
    February 7th, 2009 at 08:39 pm 1234039176
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    Oh I definitely let him know I was upset for our son. Pretty much just told him he's holding me responsible when he knows its not my fault and he can sulk all day about how much his life sucks cause he can't have a motorcycle or he can go outside and play with the kids. Even said if its THAT important, he can take the money we put aside to visit his family and buy a motorcycle with that. He never answered but it felt good just to get that off my chest cause he is being a big baby.

  6. swanson719 Says:
    February 7th, 2009 at 11:42 pm 1234050121
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    I completely agree. JS and I set aside $100 a month for ourselves after everything else is paid for and done. I'd consider doing that in your situation for him. If he wants a motorcycle bad enough, he'll save up enough to buy it. Might take ten years, but that could be a good thing.

  7. dmontngrey Says:
    February 8th, 2009 at 01:50 am 1234057815
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    Oh boy! Same thing happens here. JUST got DH's car paid off and he's already shopping for an suv. An SUV??? Ugh... On the bright side he keeps saying he wants to go over the finances to see what we can afford and how. It's an improvement, but I'm getting the constant web surfing as well. That and he doesn't shut up about it and I can't talk to him about anything else. Sometimes you gotta be the bad guy.

  8. homebody Says:
    February 8th, 2009 at 02:23 pm 1234103023
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    Hang in there. Personally, I would just ignore him and let him get over it. He's in his cave right now! You know the man cave thing where they "go" to get away from us.

  9. crazyliblady Says:
    February 8th, 2009 at 08:33 pm 1234125208
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    I know exactly what you mean. My hubby notices a house for sale and makes a comment about how it would cheaper to buy that rent. I say to him that that's a true. It might be, but how can we afford to pay for maintenance on a house - broken furnace, new fridge, etc. if we can't get our credit card and medical bills paids off? One of my coworkers told me that she only pays about $250 in house payment, but she allots another $250 for other expenses related to upkeep and repairs. This is in addition to her regular savings and retirement. She probably makes $20,000 more than I do, but she said it is still very difficult to maintain that balance. Since I have never owned a home, I will ask you all if this is accurate?

  10. lizajane Says:
    February 11th, 2009 at 01:41 am 1234316499
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    I'm glad I'm not the only one that gets the "can we buy this now?" questions just moments after some lingering thing that's been hanging for months gets taken care of. I'm just looking forward to the breathing room, and DH is looking ahead to what's next to buy. NOTHING!!!!!

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