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Statistics and lucking out

April 7th, 2010 at 02:31 pm

Sometimes I'll watch "16 and Pregnant" on MTV and there was one episode, the one about the girl being pregnant with twins really struck me.

Lots of times I'll walk away from those shows and think to myself "I lucked out". You look at the stats for young marriages/teen moms/military marriages and my life could have been VERY different. The biggest reason I am where I am in my life today is because of DH.

When I found out I was pregnant I was 18 and he was 20, we were on the verge of breaking up. In fact, when I told him about DD #1, it was during a heated argument on the phone. We hung up on each other and then he called back immediately after cause he couldn't believe what I had just said.

Within a month, we were married. I don't think I really knew what we were getting into.

Take that back, I KNOW I didn't know what I was getting into.... we were just kids. We had NOTHING, just our clothes, some CDs and a stereo. He got paid $500 every two weeks in Hawaii while we lived in housing. I remember having to try make a grocery budget of $75-$100 for every two weeks last. May sound doable on the mainland for 2, soon to be 3 people... but in Hawaii, its not.

Watching Leah and Cory on the show, kept bringing back memories. Memories of me being a kid & thinking about "What ifs", feeling like I missed out on life... when I had a wonderful man at home willing to give me his world. Not in a doting way, and he certainly wouldn't put up with any mind games - but his actions would always speak louder than his words.

He woudn't even be in the military today if it wasn't for our family. He would have gotten out YEARS ago.

Leah never wised up, and by the time she did - Cory was done with her. At least in my case, I wised up & my husband was still there.

I don't even want to imagine what my life would have been like if DH and I never worked things out. You worry about such dumb things as a kid (I'm referring to my 21 year old self as a kid) and letting thoughts like "What if he's not my soulmate?" allow you to throw away the chance of a great & happy future.

Marriage is definitely work, its still work to this day but whenever I watch these shows - I just want to give DH a big hug and say Thank you cause I really lucked out.

People like to congratulate me for what I've accomplished in life but I don't think many people realize that I couldn't even do this if I didn't luck out with such a great guy.

Poor DH, he's going to call tonight & probably wonder why I'm so sappy for him. If he was here I'd just give him a big hug.

2 Responses to “Statistics and lucking out”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    I know I don't know you that well, but I'd say it's your hard work to make it work that is the key. And it's the key at any age. But do give him a big hug and be proud of yourselves for making it work.

  2. homebody Says:

    What a sweet story... reminds me of well.... me! Only DH was 19 and I was 20 and unmarried, but had been dating since junior high with lots of breakups and makeups. Now here we are enjoying this time of life with 3 grown daughters and a beautiful granddaughter.

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